Monday, May 13, 2013
I am talking about taking calls while you are already talking on the phone with someone. I don't like it. It is rude, inconsiderate, thoughtless, and discourteous.
There is something that I sometimes do to soothe the irritation that erupts when someone calls me and then interrupts our conversation to take a call from someone else. I hang up. Then later if they call back I say that we got cut off. Or if there is time, I say, "Oh, you take the call and call me back later." Then I hang up gently.
I would rather that people decide with whom they are going to be speaking and then commit time to speaking with that person. If you call me on the phone, then speak with me. If your phone rings while you are speaking with me, then either let the phone ring or hang up with me and then answer the phone and speak with the other person. Don't make me wait until you decide with whom you want to speak.
I realize that there is always an emergency that could happen, but most calls are not emergencies, and it becomes disgustingly frustrating to be speaking with someone and then be put on hold for a long time. It is just as irritating to be put on hold for a little while and then be told, "Sorry, I have to take this call."
So that is why I sometimes just gently hang up and then later, if called back, say oh dear, we got cut off. But if someone's phone rings and he or she says "Excuse me, my phone is ringing," I prefer to say, "OK, bye for now, then," and quickly and gently hang up before they can ask me to wait.
Life is too short to wait for inconsiderate people, but also, it all depends on my mood. If I am feeling particularly mellow I might sit around and wait for a little while, but not unless.